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About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in ... (More)
About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in Silicon Valley for 15 years before becoming a therapist. My background in high-tech is helpful in understanding local couples' dynamics and the pressures of living here. I am a wife, mom, sister, friend, author, and lifelong advocate for causes I believe in (such as marriage equality). My parents are both deceased. My son graduated culinary school and is heading toward a degree in Sociology. I enjoy reading, hiking, water fitness, movies, 49ers and Stanford football, Giants baseball, and riding a tandem bike with my husband. I love the beach and mountains; nature is my place of restoration. In my work with couples, and in this blog, I combine knowledge from many fields to bring you my best ideas, tips, tools and skills, plus book and movie reviews, and musings to help you be your genuine self, find your own voice, and have a happy and healthy relationship. Don't be surprised to hear about brain research and business skills, self-soothing techniques from all walks of life, suggestions and experiments, and anything that lights my passion for couples. (Author and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Calif. Lic # MFC 45204.) (Hide)
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Go Ahead, Have a Fight
Oct 21, 2013 10:03 am
Comments: 3 | Views: 39,777
Many disagreements come about because we don't understand our partner's intention, and s/he does not anticipate the impact that action or behavior will have on me.... More
Oct 21, 2013 10:03 am
Comments: 3 | Views: 39,777
Many disagreements come about because we don't understand our partner's intention, and s/he does not anticipate the impact that action or behavior will have on me.... More
Devices are Definitely Not Sexy
Nov 1, 2013 8:52 am
Comments: 2 | Views: 39,745
They may look sexy, but they are a turn-off to your partner. S/he looks over to give you a "Hey, how about it?" look, and you miss it completely because you're looking... More
Nov 1, 2013 8:52 am
Comments: 2 | Views: 39,745
They may look sexy, but they are a turn-off to your partner. S/he looks over to give you a "Hey, how about it?" look, and you miss it completely because you're looking... More
A World Series Example: Be Explicit
Oct 23, 2013 6:13 pm
Comments: 4 | Views: 39,656
Game one, second inning; St. Louis's Wainwright pitching, high pop up. Looks like he signals that he'll catch it. Catcher Molina comes running up, but defers to... More
Oct 23, 2013 6:13 pm
Comments: 4 | Views: 39,656
Game one, second inning; St. Louis's Wainwright pitching, high pop up. Looks like he signals that he'll catch it. Catcher Molina comes running up, but defers to... More
"What Did You Do?"
Oct 28, 2013 8:30 am
Comments: 2 | Views: 39,624
On a recent warm fall afternoon, I notice a man riding his bike with a huge mixed bouquet of flowers in his basket. I watch as he turns north from Willow onto Middlefield,... More
Oct 28, 2013 8:30 am
Comments: 2 | Views: 39,624
On a recent warm fall afternoon, I notice a man riding his bike with a huge mixed bouquet of flowers in his basket. I watch as he turns north from Willow onto Middlefield,... More
"I" Statements that are Actually "You" Statements
Nov 16, 2013 11:52 am
Comments: 0 | Views: 39,355
No, that's not a typo. I hear these a lot when I encourage partners to use "I statements" or to share how s/he is feeling. Here are examples of what to... More
Nov 16, 2013 11:52 am
Comments: 0 | Views: 39,355
No, that's not a typo. I hear these a lot when I encourage partners to use "I statements" or to share how s/he is feeling. Here are examples of what to... More
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