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By Chandrama Anderson
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About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and have lived in and around Palo Alto since 1969. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in Silicon Valley for 15 years before becoming a therapist. My background i... (More)
About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and have lived in and around Palo Alto since 1969. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in Silicon Valley for 15 years before becoming a therapist. My background in high-tech is helpful in understanding local couples' dynamics and the pressures of living here.
I am a wife, mom, sister, friend, author, and lifelong advocate for causes I believe in (such as marriage equality). My parents are both deceased. I like to hang out with my teenager when he'll have me. I enjoy reading, hiking, water fitness, watching movies, 49ers and Stanford football, Giants baseball, and riding a tandem bike with my husband. I love the beach and mountains; nature is my place of restoration.
In my work with couples, and in this blog, I combine knowledge from many fields to bring you my best ideas, tips, tools and skills, plus book and movie reviews, and musings to help you be your genuine self, find your own voice, and have a happy and healthy relationship. Don't be surprised to hear about brain research and business skills, self-soothing techniques from all walks of life, suggestions and experiments, and anything that lights my passion for couples. (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Calif. Lic # MFC 45204; President, Connect2 Marriage Counseling, Inc.) (Hide)
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"Everything has a Crack. That's How the Light Gets In." Leonard Cohen
Apr 8, 2014 1:31 pm
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Our marriage is not perfect; our partner can not fulfill all of our needs (yet may fill many); our children are not the reflected best aspects of ourselves -- and... More
Apr 8, 2014 1:31 pm
Comments: 0 | Views: 249,121
Our marriage is not perfect; our partner can not fulfill all of our needs (yet may fill many); our children are not the reflected best aspects of ourselves -- and... More
Today is Yesterday's Tomorrow
Mar 24, 2014 8:01 am
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Aside from being questionably deeply philosophical, there are practical considerations for couples in this statement. "I'll work on our marriage tomorrow."
Unfortunately... More
Mar 24, 2014 8:01 am
Comments: 0 | Views: 126,992
Aside from being questionably deeply philosophical, there are practical considerations for couples in this statement. "I'll work on our marriage tomorrow."
Unfortunately... More
Grief and the Holidays
Dec 9, 2013 8:11 am
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All the hubaloo around Christmas and New Year celebrations can be so painful or irrelevant when we're grieving the death of a loved one, a loss of a relationship,... More
Dec 9, 2013 8:11 am
Comments: 0 | Views: 57,667
All the hubaloo around Christmas and New Year celebrations can be so painful or irrelevant when we're grieving the death of a loved one, a loss of a relationship,... More
"If You Don't Know, You Know: No"
Mar 17, 2014 9:37 am
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I read this quote recently (and don't remember where; sorry, author), and it hit a nerve with me.
How hard is it to say "No"? Pretty difficult for some of us,... More
Mar 17, 2014 9:37 am
Comments: 0 | Views: 51,162
I read this quote recently (and don't remember where; sorry, author), and it hit a nerve with me.
How hard is it to say "No"? Pretty difficult for some of us,... More
Love is Sustained by Action; a Pattern of Daily Devotion
Apr 4, 2014 12:46 pm
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"The Five Magic Hours" (from Dr. John Gottman of the 'Love Lab' in Seattle) is for those of you who are busy:
- Two minutes every morning, eye contact, kisses... More
Apr 4, 2014 12:46 pm
Comments: 2 | Views: 46,222
"The Five Magic Hours" (from Dr. John Gottman of the 'Love Lab' in Seattle) is for those of you who are busy:
- Two minutes every morning, eye contact, kisses... More
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Palo Alto: Bon Vivant to be replaced by bakery
By Elena Kadvany | 9 comments | 3,934 views
What’s Wrong with This?
By Chandrama Anderson | 2 comments | 1,660 views
The first few weeks
By Cheryl Bac | 0 comments | 1,122 views
Cherries and Berries
By Laura Stec | 0 comments | 171 views
We need some volunteers.
By Stuart Soffer | 1 comment | 132 views
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