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Follow-up to a Love Script

Uploaded: Apr 20, 2015
On January 21st I posted a blog about the Love Script: Arthur Aron's 36 questions to answer with another person in order to fall in love.

On my February vacation, I asked my husband if he would be willing to go through the questions with me, both to write about here, and for us as a couple. He agreed.

Many of the questions, as we would expect, are for people who do not know one another. We just answered those as deeply as we could, given what we already know about each other. And that's what I would recommend for you, as an established couple.

It was clear that the process is intimate, and intentionally takes the conversation deeper as the questions progress. The prescribed eye contact is powerful. (Notice how much eye contact you make with people throughout your day, and with your mate at home.)

We did find ourselves sharing a few important things that we had not discussed (partly because of dealing with Mom's illness, and because we're busy, plus one thing I just had not wanted to say and finally did).

It was a long process (about 3 hours), and probably best broken up into parts (we did it in three sittings). After we finished, I asked my husband what he thought of the whole process, so I could share it with you on Couple's Net, and he wondered how many men would really be willing to do it!

He also said he was glad that we had gone through the process: it's worth it.

So men and women, chime once you've done it and let me know how it was.
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