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Have You Ever Had a Dog?

Uploaded: Aug 28, 2015
Do you have a dog? Or used to? I have a Papillion. He was a rescue dog. Every time I get home, whether it's only been 30 minutes or three hours, he literally leaps all around me. He wiggles, and bounces, and boings side-to-side. By then I am laughing and smiling. He runs around the yard leaping four to six feet at a time, and then runs back to me. By then he's panting and has worn himself out enough for me to be able to pet him.

This, readers, is unconditional love.

What would your relationship feel like if you were greeted by your beloved every day with joy and enthusiasm, just because it's you coming home?

(I know: There are still a bunch of chores, childcare, dinner, email etc. calling to you. And they always will be.)

Please experiment with greeting each other with unconditional love, gratitude, and genuine pleasure to see one another for 30 days.

Then login and let me know how it's going. Have you noticed anything different? What? How do you feel? How is your sex life? How are you handling things you don't agree about?

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Posted by Woof, a resident of Bailey Park,
on Aug 28, 2015 at 10:28 am

The premise is a good one though, what if we all acted as happy as(any)dog when people walked in? Well, I personally would tone down the jumping and running(haha), but expressed happiness that someone simply comes home after a days work is something we can all do if we're mindful.


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Posted by lessons learned, a resident of Menlo Park: Felton Gables,
on Sep 1, 2015 at 12:19 pm

lessons learned is a registered user.

True, my spouse does not do this, but my spouse also does not pee on the kitchen floor and growl at passersby. It's a fair tradeoff.

P.S. I love my dogs, and it's mutual, but I am just as glad not to be married to any of them.


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