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Here's Lookin' At You Gorgeous (reprise)

Uploaded: Dec 31, 2016

One of the Top Food Parties! of all times remains this holiday piece. For the extended version, including a fun guessing game called Alluring Eyes of the Detroit Art Institute, go here.

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If you raised a glass in celebration of the holiday or New Year, think back.

Did you actually look at the person whose glass you ching-chinged? Have you ever looked into the eyes of others at your table while toasting to their health and good cheer?





It's a new practice in my circles. I don't remember who started Eyesmeet, but it's fast become a fun, silly, important part of the tradition. "Meaningful eye contact," someone called it. Friends still respond awkwardly with big eyes and silly faces, but clinking glasses wouldn't be the same without it.

We can see clearly now.

The Wall Street Journal reports nothing specific about the toast, but in a 2013 article it does say "adults make eye contact between 30% and 60% of the time in the average conversation, instead of the 60% to 70% (preferred) to create a sense of emotional connection." San Francisco-based Decker Communications suggests, "holding eye contact for 7 to 10 seconds in a one-on-one conversation, and for 3 to 5 seconds in a group setting."

I tried this all out on my family over the holiday. Wine, water, whiskey, milk - it doesn't matter.

"Meaningful eye contact everyone; look directly at the person you are toasting."

Every time, same response: wide eyes, nervous laughter, but with better connection somehow. Lasting. I want to do it more. Deep eyes reach in and touch souls.



So gorgeous... is that fun and joy I see sparkling up your 2017 eyes?

Here's lookin' at you kid.

Comments

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Posted by ribbon , a resident of another community,
on Dec 31, 2016 at 11:20 am

Hahahaha. GREAT! new actions creating "old traditions".
So rarely we actually LOOK at anyone these daze.
Makes it.... personal & conscience.


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Posted by Lauralies, a resident of another community,
on Jan 1, 2017 at 7:50 am

Ribbon, thanks for the words and Happy New Year to you. My crystal ball sez it's going to be a great one for you!


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