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Coupon for Yourself and Your Partner

Uploaded: Mar 23, 2017
This poem – Coupon – was sent to me through a daily poetry email I receive. I got the poet’s permission to share it with you. As you read it, think of yourself and how you might apply it. Also think of your spouse and beloved, and how you might apply to him/her. Next, think of your relationship and definitely apply it to your marriage.

Where/how will you give yourself, each other, and your marriage a break?

Too many couples are holding on to things that happened in the past that weren’t done how you wanted it done – especially based on how you think it should have been done. Expectations come from growing up in your own family, or noticing what your friends or acquaintances do, instead of seeing the person in front of you who is doing it his/her way with love and care. Maybe you didn’t request it be done –you think s/he should have known. Except people are not actually mind readers, and you do need to be explicit with each other (you won’t always get what you want, but you have a much higher chance if your partner knows what you want/need).

Take in the love coming your way; learn to stretch yourself to recognize how your partner gives love, and take it in. Also learn how your beloved wants to receive love, and give him/her what s/he needs.

Let yourself and each other have this coupon.

Coupon

Friends,
In lieu of a poem
I have written you a
—COUPON—
You may clip it out,
or not,
slip it in your wallet,
or not.
It isn’t redeemable for tangible goods
&/or services of any sort
(unless a Goods &/or Service Provider
should decide to honor it of their own accord,
it’s always possible…)
But for my making:
This coupon is yours to redeem
from yourself,
to give yourself a break
today, any day,
to make yourself a deal,
any deal:
a two-for-one,
A three-for-a-dollar,
a get-out-of-your-own-jail-for-free card,
a take-a-day-off-from-self-doubt-&-self-loathing voucher,
an hour-free-of-despair zone,
whatever deal you want to make with yourself,
whatever you think may be too much to ask of yourself,
but a little something off the price—
10%? 50%? 1000%?—
may help swing the deal,
Then go ahead, redeem this coupon,
swing yourself a deal,
give yourself a break.
What are you waiting for?

(Coupon expires only when you do.)

- Gary Turchin

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