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Recent Research for Wives to Keep Husbands from Straying

Uploaded: Jul 27, 2017
First, it’s interesting that the study didn’t take into account wives straying and how husbands can prevent that, but on to the research.

“The study, conducted by VictoriaMilan – a dating site for married and attached people looking to cheat – asked 12,670 of its active male members from 21 countries how long their wives and long-term partners spend pleasing and teasing them in the bedroom – and how creative she is with her love games.”

Ok, this is already twisted research in my mind because these people were already looking to cheat. And the idea is that women have to come up with sexy and out of the ordinary ways to keep their husbands satisfied so he won’t cheat. Onward.

The study goes on to state. “Playing with and eating fruit, alternating ice and warm sensations on skin, experimenting with playful sex toys, licking melted chocolate and whipped cream from each other’s bodies and streaming sexual acts for the pleasure of unknown strangers are just some of the adventurous and amorous acts these wives and long-term partners dabble in.”

The owner of the site, Mr Vedal, says, “There’s an old adage from a mother to her daughter: in order to avoid your husband being interested in other ladies you should spend all your husband’s money and ensure he is sexually exhausted and doesn’t even have the energy to look at another woman.”

Wow, spend all his money?!?!

He goes on to say, “The bedroom must remain sacred in order for a relationship to remain passionate, romantic and erotic. Conversations regarding installment of car payments, your children’s school lives or the general humdrum should never take place in the bedroom.”

Now I can agree with this last comment.

The key to great sex is intimacy. And intimacy comes from good communication, care, respect, friendship, love, kindness, listening, shared activities, romance, loving touch, putting your partners needs on par with your own, making the best decision for your relationship (not your own needs/wants, although those are taken into account), managing struggles together, and helping each other reach your individual and collective dreams.

I believe it is both of your responsibility to create an intimate, emotional, loving relationship that is filled with passion and sexual playfulness. This is what makes for happy, healthy, long-term relationships.

You keep each other from straying this way.

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Posted by Rich, a resident of Rex Manor,
on Jul 28, 2017 at 7:53 pm

Rich is a registered user.

Chandrama, I think there is a good reason why this web-site did not do any "research" about women. These web-site have virtually no actual women as members. Probably 99% of the member ships claiming to be by women are either utterly fake generated by the owners of the web-site software or by paid fakers pretending to be members to keep the men paying their memberships. Remember the scandal a while back when the web-site "AshleyMadison" got hacked and the membership info got stolen? No real women, just bots and paid shills.

But beyond that little problem, I wouldn't take anything such a web-site owner has to say with any sort of credibility or scientific rigor at all.

Could they have some valid points? Sure, but I wouldn't have dignified such a web-site with the publicity of talking about them.

FYI, my objection to these web-sites has to do with the fraud of it all, not the claimed purpose.


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Posted by Chandrama Anderson, a Almanac Online blogger,
on Aug 1, 2017 at 7:32 am

Chandrama Anderson is a registered user.

Hi Rich,

Thanks for your thoughtful reply. I hope my post was more to get people to think about issues than to give publicity . . .


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Posted by the_punnisher, a resident of Mountain View,
on Aug 2, 2017 at 4:33 pm

the_punnisher is a registered user.

Sigh. The Kirke, Kuchen, Kinde ( church, cooking, children ) was/is the way the German People handle this problem. It is verboten to bring problems into the bedroom.
I don't know if this is still the " rules " today. I do know this could be a case study in the Northwest Wisconsin area where I was born.


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Posted by Anna Sanders, a resident of Duveneck School,
on Oct 20, 2017 at 8:06 pm

Anna Sanders is a registered user.

Your words always motivates me to love my husband always despite our differences. Thank you.
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