The other factor that makes this tricky is that you have to accept your partner "as is." When you do, you both have the ability to grow and change because you are accepted.
The risk of course, is that you are vulnerable in asking for what you need, and your partner may say no. However, he or she may say yes.
For example, asking your partner to spend 20 minutes debriefing and connecting each day (as Dr. John Gottman recommends) is clearly good for the relationship. Your goal in this specific activity is to listen well, be emotionally present for your partner, and respond in a way that meets your partner's need (i.e., listen quietly and nod, say "mmhmm" a few times, or ask questions if that's what s/he prefers).
Asking your partner to cut out an activity that nurtures the soul in some way (even if it's football), isn't necessarily good for the relationship.
Think about your request: is there an underlying issue you're trying to get at? If so, be transparent and state that instead: it will build trust with your partner. Is your request a backwards way of saying a "you" statement (you never pay attention to me, you never leave me alone)?
Be clean and clear in your request. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt. Breathe, and go slowly in your conversation.
You may or may not get your request granted. Experiment. Experiment more than once; you can be in a certain mood in one moment, and feel differently later.
My motto is "If you don't ask, they can't say yes!"