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About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in ...  (More)

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Couples: Write a Personal Ad . . . to Your Partner . . .

Uploaded: Mar 15, 2019
. . . stating what you have to offer and give in your relationship. Don't make it dependent on what you are getting, either. (Later you can write another personal ad "seeking" what you want and need from your partner.)

As I started thinking about writing this particular post, I decided to look on Craigslist to see a sample of ads. One was from a married man, seeking appreciation, attention, and sex from another married person: "I'm not valued at home and neither are you" was the essence of his post. I want you to find this within your marriage; not to seek outside the bonds and commitments you've made.

What do you have to offer along the lines of helping your partner feel valued by you? You can't make anyone feel anything; it is your responsibility to feel and act valuable. Yet your partner can surely help.  How do you show appreciation, attention, and sexual desire to your partner?

Please remember that small acts of giving add up. Giving big things matter, too. But an expensive gift might not mean much when you don't feel valued and loved in the everyday small things.

On a scale of 1-10, how do you rate yourself today on your giving in your relationship? What number would you like it to be?

Lastly, have fun writing your personal ad: think about when you were most intimate, most cherished, most playful together.
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Posted by dogfather, a resident of Danville,
on Mar 16, 2019 at 9:27 am

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Tropical drink choice? Yoga preference?


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Posted by Rupert Holmes, a resident of Old Mountain View,
on Mar 19, 2019 at 11:50 am

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"If you like Pina Coladas..."

Seriously, tough, this is a good idea. Thanks!



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