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About this blog: I'm a wife, stay-at-home mom, home cook, marathon runner, and PhD. I recently moved to the Silicon Valley after completing my PhD in Social Psychology and becoming a mother one month apart. Before that, I ran seven marathons incl...  (More)

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NICU Love

Uploaded: Nov 13, 2019
When you hear that someone has a baby in the NICU, it’s hard to figure out what to do. Although we have three kids of our own, this is completely new territory for me.

I wanted to comfort and support the family, but I didn’t know how. Not knowing what else to do, I bought some preemie outfits and took our two girls to CVS to buy cards celebrating the birth of the little one. We’ve also drawn pictures for baby to look at and sent a NICU journal with colorful pens for the parents to document this stressful, exciting and emotional time.

After reading some articles and blogs online, I’ve learned that it can be helpful to:

a) Congratulate the parents! It is stressful and unexpected, but still a wonderful and exciting time.

b) Listen. Listen to the highs and the lows. Listen to their worries and concerns. Not just the first day, but for the weeks and possibly months to come.

c) Lend a helping hand. Whether you live near or far, there is always a way you can show support. You can send gift cards, preemie baby items, a card, a text letting them know you are thinking about them. Just as you probably don’t know exactly how to help, they probably don’t know exactly what would be helpful. So help when and how you can and let them discover what things are best for their family. It is a learning process for everyone.

If you’ve gone through the NICU experience yourself or supported a friend or a relative, what was most helpful?
We need your support now more than ever. Can we count on you?

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