How tragedy transformed a life

Menlo Park woman, seriously injured in a truck accident, is featured in a new documentary film

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By Miranda Simon

Special to the Almanac

Melissa Moody squints as she stares out toward the water at Ocean Beach in San Francisco, against a backdrop of gray. This is where she married Hap Wotila. But she isn't thinking about her wedding -- she's thinking about how lucky she is to still be alive.

"This is fun. I haven't stood out in the rain for a while," she says, turning to the lens.

The camera is photographing a scene from a new 78-minute documentary on the nature of happiness by filmmaker Roko Belic, who traveled to 14 countries, collecting narratives of happiness and depression, in a four-year endeavor.

Those who have seen the documentary say the story of this Menlo Park resident is among the most powerful, Mr. Belic says.

Ms. Moody, a mother of three, was run over by a truck when visiting relatives in the Texas countryside in July 1992. The accident left her face completely disfigured. She underwent 30 reconstructive surgeries.

"When I met Melissa, I knew she had experienced something that was traumatic, and the way she dealt with it was completely different than what I would have expected," says Mr. Belic, who was nominated for an Academy Award for his directorial debut, "Genghis Blues," in 1999.

According to social scientists interviewed in the film, those who endure hardships recover more quickly than we expect and may even be happier because of a traumatic event -- especially if they tended to be happy before it occurred.

One of the main ingredients for happiness, the sociologists and psychologists say, is having meaningful relationships.

Although she is happy today, Ms. Moody, now 59, went through many very difficult years. She said her family and friends helped her get through the depression caused by the accident.

"I've always been a gregarious person. I always had a core group of friends" to help me through, she says. "I didn't let (the accident) stop me (from going out). It wasn't my fault so why would I let that stop me?"

In the film, Mr. Belic shows her giving a massage to a client at San Francisco's School for Self-Healing, where she is the director of education and development. She was treated there in 1999 for her vision impairment caused by the accident, and she stayed on as a volunteer and later joined the staff.

Then the film takes us to the scene of the accident. We see her treading over a muddy road in Texas, pointing to where she was having an argument with her sister-in-law, who then drove off while Ms. Moody's hand was stuck in a door handle of the truck. She was trampled under the wheels of the truck.

The documentary shows flashes of her wounds from the accident, with patches of screaming red flesh, a swollen forehead, and what remained of her nose.

Returning to the accident scene "brought the reality of the moment back to me -- all the reality and the sadness," says Ms. Moody.

The accident brought with it a trail of problems that threatened to weigh her down for the rest of her life.

"There are many points when I wanted to die, commit suicide," she says, but she would buy herself time by remembering her children needed her.

Four years after the accident, her husband divorced her. Disabled, she was left with no income and no possibility of finding a job. After doctors pieced together her crushed bones, and a failed surgery left her at the brink of blindness, they told her there was little hope for further physical recovery.

But despite doctors' diagnoses, she was able to return to work and, 19 years after her accident, she says she is happier than she has ever been.

"She, like everyone, is still susceptible to hardship," but the accident pushed her to live more profoundly, says Mr. Belic.

Quiet reflection was forced upon her by the physical pain. As she lay in the hospital bed, she could only listen to harp and flute-based music because any other form of distraction was too disorienting, she says. Whenever she felt angry, her body would tense up and hurt.

She had double-vision, so she couldn't read or watch television.

She heard about a treatment for vision impairment, called CranioSacral therapy, by Dr. Meir Schneider, at the School for Self-Healing in San Francisco. She flew there from Texas.

"It was serendipity," she says. "I was divorced, I had no income, but I had some (airline) miles."

The therapy involved a variety of exercises, such as walking back and forth with a piece of black paper taped to her forehead. The paper blocked her forward vision but helped her regain peripheral vision.

One of her homework assignments was to get a boyfriend.

Hap Wotila was a long-time friend, and the only person she knew in the Bay Area, so she gave him a call.

"She said, 'I'll be down at the beach at 5 o'clock doing my vision exercises,'" he says. "So I parked my vehicle and there she was with her pants rolled up, the sun was going down. I thought, 'This is a striking picture.'"

Five years later, they married.

They are very social and meet friends often, he says.

The filmmaker, Mr. Belic, said he is convinced that social relationships are a key element of happiness.

"What I saw is that in places like the slums in Calcutta, people do not have any measure of success," he says. "What I saw, instead, was that people had a strong sense of community. Their purpose in life was being part of something bigger than themselves: Being as good as they can be among their friends and families."

At a recent showing of the film in San Francisco, Ms. Moody says, more than 50 friends showed up. After the showing, she went onstage to participate in a question-and-answer session. When she stepped off the stage, her friends flocked to greet her, and she showed everyone how happy she really is.

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About Melissa Moody

Melissa Moody has a private practice in massage therapy in Menlo Park, as well as at the School of Self-Healing in San Francisco. She teaches vision-care classes at Stanford to university and hospital employees, and the classes are now open to the public. She is writing a book about her story and the healing process, and has written a book of poetry, "A Time to Heal." "It was a means to access the pain I was in and heal and release from it," she says. Ms. Moody invites people to contact her by email ( with any questions.

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10 people like this
Posted by Heather
a resident of another community
on Jul 2, 2013 at 2:29 pm

I saw this documentary and loved Melissa's story. What I keep wondering is what happened to the sister-in-law. How could anyone, especially a relative, get so angry as to hurt someone as bad as she did? Were there charges pressed against her? How did she feel knowing she'd hurt Melissa so badly? I can't get my head around that and wonder what ever happened to her.

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Posted by Carole
a resident of another community
on Jul 16, 2013 at 12:08 pm

I'm curious like Heather: what happened to the sister-in-law?

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Posted by Melissa
a resident of another community
on Jul 18, 2013 at 8:46 pm

Hi Heather,

I am glad you watched the film HAPPY and liked it. It is really sad and it is hard to understand- she did not mean to hurt me and yet, ran over me. Emotions can blind us, even for a few seconds, and those seconds can be dangerous. But it was an accident. No charges were pressed. I cannot speak for her- only she can, (as to how she felt). It has taken time but I have forgiven and we are friends. Healing is powerful.... my inner healing is up to me and learning to let go and be grateful for today has been powerful.

Blessings, Melissa

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Posted by Sharon Tucker
a resident of Willow Oaks Elementary
on Aug 3, 2013 at 3:29 pm

I too wondered about the sister in law and the two of you were related. Your marriage ended after the accident and it sounded like your husband struggled with guilt. That made me wonder if she was from his side of the family.

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Posted by Melissa
a resident of another community
on Aug 7, 2013 at 1:30 pm

My sister-in-law is by brother's wife. You are welcome to email me personally at and visit my web page anytime. Blessings, Melissa

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Posted by Olivia castro
a resident of Menlo Park: Menlo Oaks
on Jun 2, 2014 at 9:29 pm

Wow melissa what an inspiring story..goes to prove how only you are in charge of your destiny. Good luck to you and thank you for your story. Olivia from salinas

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Posted by Sazza
a resident of another community
on Jun 2, 2014 at 9:33 pm

Hello Melissa, I just wanted to say how much of an inspiration you are to many. From what I've seen you've found true serenity, and I'm so very happy for you. With all best wishes, Sazza

2 people like this
Posted by Krishna
a resident of another community
on Jul 18, 2014 at 11:33 pm

Very inspiring story...

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Posted by Lynn
a resident of another community
on Sep 28, 2014 at 7:58 pm

God bless you! I too saw "Happy". Your story is an inspiration.

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Posted by Patricia
a resident of another community
on Aug 17, 2015 at 8:28 pm

I haven't lived half the adversity you have to, and sometimes I find hard to trust in people. You are the most inspiring person I have heard about. With all the due respect, may I ask if you think God exist? Do you think all this that happen to you have a trascendent sense? Please do not misunderstand me, I just want to know wether you have had a personal experience with God. A simple answer of Yes of No, will be enough. Thanks a lot for sharing your story. It helps me a lot. I beg everybody else not to post about their personal beliefs about God.

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Posted by Linda
a resident of Hillview Middle School
on Mar 19, 2016 at 9:42 am

Hi Melissa,

You are inspiring, beautiful and wise. You have taught me that true beauty comes from within and physical beauty is icing; nice but not all too important to the cake. I can tell that you are a loved woman. You are a real beauty!

Santa Rosa, CA

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Posted by Arieana
a resident of Atherton: other
on Aug 30, 2016 at 4:50 pm

Dear Melissa,

I don't know if you still read this thread, but I just want repeat what everyone has said and say you are inspiring and absolutely gorgeous!


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Posted by Reshma
a resident of another community
on Feb 3, 2017 at 7:40 am

I saw your story on Happy and I want to thank you for sharing your story. You brave, beautiful, Beautiful woman. God bless you and yours.


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Posted by Cindy Follmer
a resident of another community
on May 9, 2017 at 10:03 am

Thank you Melissa for sharing your amazing story. You are a true inspiration. You left a wonderful impression on my heart for forgiveness, humanity, love, mankind.

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